Growing Up V. Selling Out
I can remember the exact moment that I realized who I was, wasn’t who I wanted to be.
There I was, 16 and punk rock to the core. My main focus in life was rebellion in any and every form possible. I had recently formed my second band (who put on one show, then split up because the guitarist was high and tried to stab me over the 10$ I wouldn’t lend him to score). My heroes at the time were Curt Cobain and Jim Morrison who both died before hitting their thirties from drug related causes. I wore jeans with holes in them from skateboarding, shirts with bands on them or whatever randomness I found at Goodwill. I would go to the mall on a regular basis with my friends to verbally pick apart the “preppy kids” with their department store cookie-cutter image. I had no solid opinions on anything political, social, or otherwise important to mankind. My only real concern in life was to get high and make a fool out of myself to make people laugh.
In my sophomore year of high school I met up with a friend to go meet the lead singer of one of my favorite local bands. Because I respected him then for his musical talent and showmanship, he’ll be known here as Johnny. At 32, standing 5’9” with stringy black hair down to his shoulders; Johnny was the epitome of who I aspired to be. Living in a run-down 1 room studio in a ghetto part of town, Johnny lived alone. His “Limbo” as he called it, “Neither Heaven or Hell, but comfy as well.” He told me one thing that to this day I feel was the most influential sentence I’ve ever heard. We walked to the mall and picked up some random things from the clearance rack at “Hot Topic” then strolled over to the adjacent middle school and got high on the roof. Under the stars, thinking that I was exactly where I wanted to be for the rest of my days, Johnny turned to me and said, “If I could go back to your age, I’d beat the **** out of myself and tell myself, ‘do whatever it takes to not end up here.’” He took a long drag off the joint we were passing around, blew the smoke in the air, then got up and left.
To this day I haven’t crossed paths with him.
15 year old me would look at 23 year old me and call me a sell out. At 23 I’m in the Army, married, and have a daughter. I’m able to live how I want to live and able to afford the things I want in life. 16 year old me would say that I’ve grown up. The big question is, “What is the difference?” The difference is 100% mentality. I still listen to the Sex Pistols, The Clash, The Misfits, and several other “The” bands who long since have faded out of the lime light. I still hate the government and think that it’s corrupt beyond repair. I still think certain people are “preppy,” but know that I look damn good in a suit and tie. I know that there are jerks who drive BMW’s and act like they’re better than me, even when I take the t-tops off my Corvette. I have tattoos but know that they have a deep enough meaning to me that I don’t have to show them off to the world.
I’ve grown up into the man that 16 year old me knew I had the ability to be and that 15 year old me wished he could be but was too “rebellious” to strive for. I was lucky enough to see the end state of where I’d be had I stayed in my previous mindset and how miserable he was. What I’m trying to get at is that there’s a point where you have to look at who you are and the person that you’ll become if you keep living like you do. If you don’t like who you’ll become, take a stand; you don’t have to sell out and forget where you came from or who you are inside.
Bucket Lists
Lis and I each have our own bucket list, but as we’ve grown closer and our lives become intertwined, our lists have followed suit. Everyone should keep one of these if for nothing else than to keep you on track!
1. Visit a remote country and live humbly for a week.
Growing up Lower/Middle-Class I’ve been privileged to lead a life with all of my necessities covered. Too often do we take for granted the little things like the clean water from our faucets.
2. Drive the Autobahn.
From everything I’ve heard about the Autobahn, the allure of a place where I can drive without speed limits and see the European Countryside is irresistible to me.
3. Visit New York and run Central Park.
The Big Apple is home to some of my favorite shows and some excellent culture. I’d like to take in a show on Broadway, attend an invitation-only gala on top of a skyscraper, and most importantly take a jog through Central Park.
4. Own a successful Business.
My father’s father built his engineering practice into a successful business and was able to bring his sons into the business and provide for multiple generations because of his hard work. My mother’s father ran a successful medical practice eventually expanding and moving into real-estate. My father started one of the first computer sales companies in our hometown and now owns his own motorcycle restoration business. Hard work and dedication are the greatest examples they could give me.
5. Attend all three major Longhorns games (Football, Basketball, and Baseball)
I recently bought tickets to the Big 12 Championship game where the Texas Longhorns will be representing the Big 12 South division!!!
6. Learn Japanese.
My hero Shintaro Katsu starred in over 200 movies including over 100 Samurai films. He made a legacy out of portraying the legendary Blind Samurai “Zatoichi.” All of his movies are filled with moral dilemmas and his means of solving them like a man. I want to one day watch his movies without subtitles.
7. Brew my own beer and throw a party with it.
In episode 3 of the 5th season of Futurama “The Route of All Evil”, Bender uses his body as a “big disposable tub” to mix the ingredients for their own beer. After it’s all said and done, ‘Benderbrau’ is born and they all celebrate.
8. See Conan Live in Los Angeles.
Since Lis and I started dating we’ve watched a lot of streaming videos online and one of our favorite things to watch is Conan. He has a way of making himself seem like someone you’d want to hang out with that appeals to both of us. I’d love to see him live, who knows, we may get to meet him?
9. Teach Kay how to ride a motorcycle.
I learned how to ride a motorcycle at the young age of four. That same bike stayed with me until I was about 11! My dad made sure to get a bike that had adjustable shocks and a governor to adjust the throttle all the way down to a gentle putt-putt when I was small and up to a nice little cruising speed when I was older. I have hundreds of memories from that little Yamaha dirtbike and I want Kay to have the same opportunity.
10. Ride motorcycles with Lisa and Kayleigh all together.
While my brother is incarcerated (long story) his mini-bike has been stored with my brother-in-law. It’s a little Thumper 125cc mini-dirtbike with street tires on it; the perfect pit-bike! Lis learned how to use the clutch and got the basic principles down without the fear of a larger bike… the next step is to find a bike with ~400cc’s so she can try it out.
11. Finish the Stingray and leave it to Kayleigh.
Toward the end of my first deployment I bought my 1975 Corvette Stingray. It’s been a project car ever since. As I go I add a bit here and there, eventually I’d like to get it into semi-show quality. I know that I can’t stand when I see really old guys driving around in the cars that I always dreamt of owning, so I decided that once Kay is ready to head off to college, It’ll be her car. That’s still 15 years of me enjoying it…
12. Take my extended family on a vacation and pay for it all.
For New Year’s 2010 I’m taking my in-laws and my parents to Ruidoso, NM. It’s not the biggest trip, but it’ll be a good vacation for all of us.
13. Compete in a legit triathlon.
The 2010 Texas Triathlon Series has several good triathlons that I intend to check out, and possibly enter New Braunfles, and Austin.
14. Record an album.
Lis and I have planned to turn our guest bedroom into a studio and there I will lay down our first LP.
15. Drink and Dance in a /real/ roadhouse bar.
If you’ve seen the movie ‘Black Snake Moan’ then you know what I’m talking about. There’s something that a dirty backwoods roadhouse bar can offer that I wouldn’t expect to find anywhere else. Maybe it’s the people and their attitudes, maybe it’s the music, whatever it is, I like the way it comes together and everyone can go crazy without a care in the world.
16. Finance someone getting back on their feet asking for nothing in return.
We all have the ability to do great things for others. I get a deep sense of satisfaction from helping others in my daily life. I’ve been blessed with a good life; why not share what I have for the betterment of someone else? Sometimes, no matter how good a life you’re living, the world will toss you a curve ball and you end up on hard times. I agree that some people end up where they are because they chose to do things a certain way…
17. Simultaneously own a House, Car, Truck, and motorcycle.
I grew up in a mobile home. My parents always taught me to appreciate what I had, and I always did. Right now I own the car and motorcycle; Lis and I are looking at our finances and debating whether or not to buy a house in today’s market. The truck will come in time.
18. Finish College.
I recently took the first step and enrolled in an online university. Colorado Technical University here I come!
19. Take Kayleigh and Lisa to a proper Opera or Play on Broadway.
This co-insides with #3. Our generation doesn’t appreciate good culture. I can buy a ticket to see the Jonas Brothers dance around like idiots pretending to play instruments OR I can buy a ticket to see a choreographed portrayal of a story written ages ago that has a moral dilemma and comes to a resolution through the actions of the actors on stage. I think only one of the choices will result in an aneurism.
20. Attend a big invitation only event such as a gala or benefit.
I grew up on the James Bond movies where he would slip into these ultra-exclusive situations, dressed to the 9’s, with the most beautiful woman on his arm. Suit? Check. Most beautiful woman on my arm? Check. Event? Still looking.
21. Compete in a fully sanctioned professional fight.
Amateur complete, only a few more to go…
22. Build Kayleigh something that she’ll remember for her lifetime.
My dad has always been a craftsman, all the way down to using only Chraftsman © tools when he works! When I was growing up there were tools and supplies to build all sorts of crazy things but the stuff I remember most was always built by dad. He could repair anything that I broke, and would do so often. I think a playhouse or riser-bed is in store for Kayleigh; I’m very good with wood.
23. Forge my own sword.
Famous Samurai would wield only hand-forged one of a kind swords. Each one had a story behind it, and a story was told using it. The process of metallurgy is really intriguing to me and I’d like to go through the step-by-step of making my own one of a kind sword, even if it spent its life hanging above my fireplace.
24. Meet one of my heroes.
We have so much to teach the generations that follow us. I’d love to sit and enjoy a lunch with one of my heroes and just listen to their experiences and learn from them.
25. Live a life with enough meaning that I’m remembered as a good man.
If no one remembers who you are then you lived a selfish life.
Counseling
As a Non-Commissioned Officer I counsel my soldiers and team leaders on a monthly basis as to their performance for the month, highlighting things that they can sustain or improve upon. These counselings are usually one to two pages and help the soldier or team leader to analyze themselves from another point of view.
A large part of being a man is the accumulation of knowledge. The other part is sharing that knowledge. (Be mindful that there are people who don’t want to hear what you have to say, people who want to hear it, but not from you, and people who want to hear it from you but you’re not skilled enough to teach them.)
Counseling and Mentoring a young mind is a great way to put your knowledge to good use. The lessons learned from you can have a much larger impact on a person than you would think.
As Lisa is packing to move (yet again, thanks to the Army) she came across this letter that I sent her a while back. I don’t remember what it was for, but I can tell you that it was honest, and easy to do, and probably resulted in showers of kisses and tasty grilled cheese sandwiches…
Valor
The Army has multiple awards that are given for ‘valor’. I rarely find myself in a situation to judge others, and when placed in such a situation, I try and refrain as it’s not my place to pass judgment on others.
Today however was different; today my platoon sergeant was awarded the Bronze Star Medal. In the line standing with him were several other Sergeant’s First Class, multiple Lieutenants, and a whole bunch of other officers and upper enlisted personnel who had no reason being up there receiving an award like the Bronze Star.
I can name two other individuals who I knew and had the opportunity to serve with (in different facets) who have also received the award, and it is because of them that I feel this article needs to be written.
Cpl. William T. Warford (K.I.A. September 5th, 2007) and Sgt. Andrew McConnell (K.I.A. September 14th, 2009) both received the Bronze Star Medal posthumously. They both volunteered to join the Army in a time of war, and gave their lives for their country fighting to protect Americans the world over from Terrorism. Although the details of their sacrifices were different, the values that they both held were the same.
Sergeant First Class Foster (my Platoon Sergeant) has served three tours of duty as both an Infantryman and a Scout. He has led in multiple combat operations, and received several other awards for his service. This deployment he has led the BRIGADE COMMANDER’S Personal Security Detachment through multiple missions, and because of his direct leadership, we’ve succeeded in our mission. I have no argument against him receiving this award as he has proven himself to be a truly valorous soldier.
My issue is with the ‘less’-er individuals that were standing next to him…
GUT-‘LESS’… SPINE-’LESS’… USE-‘LESS’. At some point over the past few years, it has become “customary” for persons in the ranks of Sergeant First Class and above to be awarded the Bronze Star Medal simply for deploying. Nine-tenths of the people who were standing up there waiting to receive their awards have never left the base, let alone had an opportunity to show even the simplest form of valor. I am sad that my friends who were KILLED IN ACTION were awarded the same medal that is apparently given out like candy. If anyone tries to award me for such MEDIOCRITY, I would either decline it, or have to common decency to eat my own gun.
What a Girl Wants, 81-100
This will be the final installment of the ‘WaGW’ series. Hopefully, going into depth and breaking down these 100 specific items or “requirements” from one specific girl will help you with the 100+ things that your S.O. wants from you! When in doubt, remember to use the S.T.O.P.P. acronym…
81.He will put the toilet seat down for me It’s just as easy to lower the seat as it is to pick it up. If you can remember to do it for a week, it’ll become a habit and you’ll start lowering it every time you finish. If you don’t want to, just remember that every time you flush, millions of germs fly up into the air in a plume of disgustingness, if you close the lid (one step further than the seat) you’ll solve both problems ;)
82.He’ll pick up the dog poop A dog is a man’s best friend. Establish that it’s your dog or her dog. If she has one of those dogs in a purse, you should get out of the relationship because she’ll be nothing but trouble. From what I’ve learned, no girl worth your trouble will carry a dog in her purse. Cleaning up after your dog should be like second nature.
83.Kisses well If you suck at kissing, practice. The best way to practice is to avoid her mouth. Kisses on the neck, etc. will be more productive and provide you with an opportunity to see first hand how you’re doing. If you’re using too much tongue, you’ll leave slobber on her neck… no one likes slobber. If you’re not using enough tongue, she’ll seem uninterested.
84.Will build [insert child’s name] a tree house! A man should be able to do anything. If you don’t know how to do something, it’s easy to look skilled by being involved. If you sucked it up in Woodshop class, hire a guy to help you build it (who knows how to do it himself) and look like a badass by simply helping out and being visibly involved in the production of something manly.
85.Will buy me daisies Some girls like flowers. Call 1-800-flowers or go to http://www.google.com and search: “flowers” There are several ways to make a girl melt in her shoes in two minutes.
86.Doesn’t have ugly tattoos Sorry, I don’t have an answer for your ‘bat-winged vagina with fangs’ tattoo (Ask Nate)…
87.Is reliable It doesn’t make you less of a man to carry around a planner, or USE the iPhone’s scheduler application. Keep notes of the things that are asked of you. Even if you fail at the task, you try and try your best and people will take notice.
88.Will watch scary movies w/me If you’re not into scary movies, but /do/ enjoy having a woman wrapped in your arms, you’ll be surprised what kind of crap you can sit through (any of the ‘Scream’ Movies)
89.Is alright w/staying home on Friday & Saturday nights There are things that couples do when in love… like play Scrabble! A quiet night at home can teach you things about your S.O. that you’d never know otherwise.
90.Is creative If you’re not generally creative, then be creative in your own ways. Find a way to be unique in the things that you excel at.
91.Will consider moving to England for a year (at least) The world is awesome, explore the heck out of it!
92.Will take naps w/me A nap is a good way to not fizzle out when it gets late. If you take a nap on Friday, your chances are better to not get tired when you’re out till 2am.
93.Will fight for me if I’m ever in a coma & they tell him I won’t pull through Have faith hommie. This is a really personal one, and I’m not gonna get into it.
94.Will appreciate me Women are awesome, and sometimes they need to be reminded of it. One common misconception is that they want gifts to recognize their hard work. Sometimes it’s as easy as saying ‘Thank you’.
95.Will hold me when I have a terrible nightmare If you’re like me, when you sleep, you want to stay asleep. The best way is to make an arm available at all times. If she wakes up and wants to talk, fight the urge to sleep, one good idea is to pretend you have to pee and slam a Redbull so that you can stay awake through whatever she wants to talk about.
96.Will not let me give up on my dreams Everyone has wild and crazy aspirations. If she wants to dance in the Russian Ballet, but has two left feet, take her to watch ballet and drive her to her lessons. Don’t waste time being negative, let her enjoy her life, as you enjoy yours. If You’re a douchebag with big chrome tips on your exhaust and fake vents on the sides of your hood cause you think you’re in the movie ‘The Fast and The Furious’… I will personally kill your dream, and any girl who dates you should be given some sort of award.
97.Will let me take pictures of him Even if you’re an ugly dude, if she wants to take your picture, she can see beauty in you and wants a way to freeze that moment in time to enjoy it again later. Don’t be shy, remember that God made you, and he did it with purpose.
98.Will call me by my name Pet-names and nick-names are all cool, but occasionally a girl needs to be reminded that she’s your love, and not a pet or buddy.
99.Will look me in the eyes The eyes are the gateway to the soul, they’re also the easiest way to tell what emotion a girl is feeling.
100.My future husband should be willing to walk through fire, as I would for him! A woman is the ultimate partner. Just like any friend, you should strive to make her the best thing in your life. I personally intend to teach Lisa (my wife) to shoot, perform first-aid, overcome any obstacle, survive in the wild, and do basically whatever it would take to save my ass, cause I know that I would do anything for her.
What a Girl Wants, 61-80
Things have been weird here lately. And after some soul searching, quiet nights, and plenty of time in the gym, I’m finally back on my grind stone. I was asked recently if writing this has caused women (other than my wife) to hit on me; to answer that simply, “maybe?” Frankly I could care less — her love is the only love I need, she knows that I know what I’m talking about; even 7,000 miles apart, she’s still crazy about me!
61. Is Consistent. When asked the three words that describe me best, my response was, “Dedicated, Consistent, and Professional.” Being Consistent is a large part of being a man. Once you’ve made a point clear, stick to it. Should it turn out that your position is unfavorable to you in the future, then it’s your own fault and no one else’s. Don’t make excuses and change your position to fit the situation. If you stop and think about things before formulating an opinion or position, you will be able to live with your answer longer.
62. Will have tickle wars w/me. A girl is a delicate flower… so is a Venus Fly Trap! If your significant other (or “S.O.”) starts to tickle you, their goal is to see the softer side of you. If you’re not ticklish, fake it. Women love to see vulnerability in us.. not to exploit it, but to humanize us. Be careful — if she says “no” or “stop,” it usually means she’s uncomfortable with the situation. Oh, and also, if you’re a guy, and not me, don’t tickle my wife; it’s a long story, just don’t do it. [Editor’s note: HAHAHA. It’d be wise to follow this rule. Take it from the guy who learned this rule the hard way lol..]
63. Will go for walks w/me. I recommend this highly! Do you clean your car, wash it often, show it off occasionally? Why not do the same with your S.O.? Women need care and maintenance too, For them, it’s as easy as a walk. I take my ‘Vette out for a spin as often as I can; sometimes it’ll “talk” to me — little things like a “sputter” or “clunk” can let me know if my car has issues. In much the same way, taking a walk with your S.O. and having a conversation can let you know if she has issues…
64. Will travel w/me. I try and promote traveling globally and having adventures. Our life is a series of moments and experiences. If you don’t go see what’s out there, you’ll never know the beauty of the world.
65. Remembers my birthday!! If you’re reading this then you obviously have a computer. Go to Birthday Alarm and program in all your family’s birthdays. A good trick for you to do is set 2 alarms for her.. one the day of and one a week in advance so that you dont forget to get her a gift, you inconsiderate jerk!
66. Does not do drugs. Drugs are bad, mmmkay… A clean body and mind are key to succeeding. If there are other things clouding your judgement or affecting your attitude, you’ll make STUPID decisions and multiple mistakes. If your S.O. isn’t down with one of your bad habits, you can either kick the habit or find someone else. Drugs have a nasty way of ruining relationships. I asked a former girlfriend to choose between weed and me; we broke up soon after and I don’t ever regret asking her to choose.
67. Isn’t super skinny. I spent the first 14 years of my life very skinny. At age 15, I started actually working toward adding weight to my body through physical conditioning, some weights, and eating more… If you’re fat and want to lose weight, you have a WAY easier time than if you’re a naturally thin guy who is trying to add mass. I recommend CellMass if you’re working out; take it afterward to rebuild and add mass to your muscles while they recover. It helped me add good weight and muscle to fill out a bit. If you’re a fat guy and want to lose weight, email me.
68. Is motivated & realistic but also a dreamer. There will always be times where nothing motivates you to do a task that you know needs doing. If you’re out of work and feel “beat down” by the situation and totally unmotivated, look past the situation to the place you want to be. Let me lay out an example:
End State: Me sitting on a beach sippin’ a margarita.
-1: How am I gonna get to the beach? (I need a plane ticket)
-2: How am I gonna get the money for the plane ticket? (I need a job)
-3: What Job can I get? (I need skills)
-4: What classes can I take to get the skills I need to get the job I want? (I need to go to school)
-5: GO TO CLASS ON TIME AND STUDY; If I study I get the skills, If I have the skills I get the job, If I have the job I make the money, if I have the money I get to the beach.
It’s good to have dreams, dreams can be your motivation to do anything. Set your goals and do what you have to do to reach them. If you realize that your goals are crazy, then scale them back to make them more attainable.
69. Will teach me new things. Everyone likes to learn new things. Our skills help us shape how we perceive ourselves and whether others see us as useful or not. The greatest thing you can do for a person is to give them the knowledge that you’ve had to work for. Not only is it selfless, but it will help positively change the growth of humanity. If enough people would freely share their knowledge, we as humans could grow exponentially.
70. Will not cheat on me. Cheaters never truly win. If you cheat and get caught, don’t defend your actions. Even if she was being a pain in the butt, you’re still in a relationship, and you still broke the bond of trust. Making a comeback from this is incredibly different because you’ve severed the main thing that holds the relationship together. If you value her, even a little bit, have the decency to end the relationship and move on, or stay committed and avoid situations where you would be tempted to cheat.
71. Must be taller than me, but not a giant. You should be able to reach into the cabinets that I need a chair for! For all my short homies out there, I apologize… I don’t know how to tell you to be taller, just find a step ladder and I wish you the best of luck.
72. Is sensible. [a : perceptible to the senses or to reason or understanding.] Not being a douche is as easy as knowing what is sensible. If her parents are hanging out with you, avoid talking about having sex with their daughter. That just isn’t being sensible! If you think it might be upsetting to any of the five senses, don’t do it. Really, how would you feel if she told off-color jokes in front of your black friends?!?!? Again, not being very sensible.
73. Will do anything to make me feel better after I had a bad day, or a fight w/my parents or boss. Girls need to be comforted whenever anything goes awry. The trick is, like I’ve said before, keep your mouth shut. Ask questions, be supportive (even if you know she’s wrong), and most of all: PAY ATTENTION! You’d be amazed at how much just “being there” will get you.
74. Doesn’t pick his nose in public. I’ll admit it, I dig for gold when there’s treasure to be found. If you’re like me and feel that the nasal passageway needs to be absolutely clear AT ALL TIMES, let your S.O. know this fact, and you and her can begin to work together toward a comfortable solution. I do the “I have to check something” method. I put my face in a place or position that isn’t easily seen than I GO TO TOWN on the ‘ol nasopharyngeal passage :-P
75. He doesn’t name his body parts. If you still refer to various parts of your body by pet names, here’s the news flash you’ve been missing: YOU’RE A GROWN MAN, QUIT ACTING LIKE A 5 YEAR OLD! My arms are not my “Guns,” they’re my Biceps. I could make another example, but that wouldn’t be sensible!
76. He doesn’t name my body parts. If you think it’s endearing, it’s not. It’s too easy to give a girl a complex about her looks. Being a man involves having respect for women and that encompasses the ENTIRE woman.
77. He’ll hold my hand :D The hand hold tells a lot about a couple; interlocked fingers shows a closeness, holding a single finger shows a dominant party, and a death grip shows problems in the relationship. Choose wisely.
78. He’ll kill the giant bugs. I have two fears: 1. Bull-Dykes, and 2. Cockroaches. I will go toe-to-toe and kill ANY bug that appears to be a threat to the family. My wife actually showed me one of the most valuable tips; use a vacuum and suck up the critter and you don’t have to deal with it too closely. Be sure to get the hose attachment.
79. He’ll drive! You should be in control of your surroundings at all times. If you’re a crappy driver, I strongly recommend finding an empty parking lot and setting out some cones to practice with. Nothing makes you look less appealing than lacking one of the “Man Skills”. (Yes, the next blog post will cover the Man Skills)
80. But he’ll also let me drive sometimes too! It’s not un-manly to relax every once in a while and let your S.O. take the wheel. This can be applied to other various parts of the relationship. If you’re the one who makes all the decisions and dictates the pace of everything, she’ll get used to it and rely on you for everything. It’s good to prepare your S.O. for a life without you because there WILL be “Mactivities” (Yes…. another day) that will take you on your own adventures and she’ll be left to fend for herself!
That’s all I’ve got for today. It feels good to be back.
Probably the most comfortable I’ve been on the bike so far. I jammed out to a collection of remixes by SoulWax and the “So Far Gone” album by Drake.
- Distance
- 11.85mi
- Time
- 00:30
- Felt
- great
LEGS!!!
I wish there was an “Amazing” choice for my mood, cause that’s how I feel!
Leg Day:
2 sets of each
squats 10 X 95lbs
squats 10 X 115lbs
squats 10 X 135lbs
squats 10 X 155lbs
3…
Rules
I needed a day to think about things, and take stock in what this blog is about.
1. If you’re a man, reading this blog in the hopes that following some of these tips will help you BECOME A BETTER MAN, awesome.
2. If you’re a woman, hoping that you can apply some of these tips to make you a better wife, girlfriend, or significant other, awesome.
3. If you’re a woman, reading this because you think it’s ammo for you to tell your man, “Look, he is doing all these things, and look how easy he says they are,” then I hope your man leaves you at a bus station with $20 to get back to your parent’s house.
I’m writing this to help MEN overcome some of OUR issues. We dont need you to point out our issues, or deliver us some sort of wake up call. YOU cannot change a man; you CAN let a man know that he needs to make a change, but ultimately if he doesn’t WANT a change, then it will not happen.
I didn’t want this to become some sort of rant.
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