Being a Man in Today’s Society
Who the hell is Zach Efron?
Why are all the girls wanting me to act like a vampire?
What is “product”?
As a man, you’re faced with many difficult questions in these trying times. The World is changing, and the people in it are spiraling downward in a pool of self-destruction, pop-culture, crap fashion, and *gasp* mediocrity.
The effect I’m talking about is chronicled in the movie “Idiocracy” by Mike Judge.
Take a moment and stand in front of a mirror. Do you like what you see?
If you do, skip the next paragraph and go to step 2…
If you don’t, make a list of things you find wrong with the picture. Are you obese? Do you wear skinny jeans that make you appear to be a woman? Does your hair have enough “product” in it to choke a moose? Lists are a good way to quantify a problem; make a list of the things you don’t like about yourself, then each day, strive to cross something off that list. I’ve known people who have dropped over 100lbs through hard work and dedication. Don’t let society tell you that you have to save up $10,000 and get your stomach stapled or some other B.S. Be a man and have the BALLS to do something for YOU.
Step 2:
A man’s attitude and demeanor will let a person know more about his character than anything else. Take stock of your attitude, and how you come across to others. Do people want to hang out with you? Do you often criticize others based on faulty rationale? Are you an A-Hole?
Once you’ve mastered controlling your own attitude, you can try what I’ve learned to call “self-projection”.
Self-Projection is me speaking, acting, or actively listening in a way that projects my own emotions, beliefs, opinions, and feelings ONTO others.
If you have a positive outlook on a situation, but speak with negativity, people often grasp the negativity and follow that the wrong direction. Be confident in your ultimate position on something and people will pick up on it and follow YOU toward anything.
Women want the Alpha Male. Ask any girl, your mother, sister, co-worker, random girl at the bus stop, etc… Phrase it like this: “If you were given the choice between a guy who works at a coffee shop and makes you smile every morning with a freshly brewed cup of joe, or the guy who works at the coffee shop, never tucks his shirt in, always has stains on his pants, and never says “hi” to you, who would you pick?”
Think hard men, all of your goals are attainable. If I talked to myself 10 years ago, I would slap the crap out of me, tell myself all the same things I’m telling you, and be where I am now faster than I got here.
Here’s what I’ve accomplished at my tender age of 23:
Married to a beautiful woman (Perfect 10 and has a Bachelors in Biology “Magna Cum Laude”) for 4 wonderful years.
Helped raise my beautiful daughter (3 years old)
I drive a 1975 Corvette Stingray (and own a paid off Scion Xb for the fam)
I ride a 2001 Ducati Monster 900
I’m a Sergeant in the U.S. Army and I’m looking at making Staff Sergeant before I go home (from Iraq)
I’ve traveled to multiple countries
I’m done virtually every extreme sport you can imagine
The list goes on and on.
I came from humble beginnings. My parents raised me in a very nice mobile home, there were times where money got tight, but we always made it through. (I clearly remember eating a “Bean Soup” on occasion, consisting of 3 diff cans of beans, mixed up.) I went to public school riding the bus or getting dropped off by extended family members. I had to fight hard to get a scholarship to my local College because my family couldnt afford to send me without it. (I dropped out 2 years in)… Everything I have now, is everything I dreamed I’d have. Did it fall into my lap? NO. I worked my skinny ass off for it.
Dedication. Perseverance. Determination. (I could list strong words all day)
At the end of the day, think about what the phrase “Be a MAN” meant back in the days of John Wayne, Steve McQueen, and Clint Eastwood. Then think about what it means today. If you’re like me, today’s definition is what days of old would have called a “PANSY”.
There’s nothing wrong with looking good, having style, etc. The difference between a man and whatever you want to call a male in today’s pop-culture society, is that a REAL man remembers and retains the qualities of the men who came before him.
Like my father before me, and his father before him, I am a Man. I can hunt, fish, grow a beard, and skin a deer. BUT as a Man today, I can cook, clean, help my wife when she needs me, be compassionate, dress to the 9’s, voice my opinions on things that aren’t my place, and most assuredly ask for help.
I’ve adapted the ways of the past to fit this different world.
Women want a man who is fit.
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